5 Relationship Tips for Confident Girls

Chanbasha M
4 min readMar 2, 2022
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Are you smart, strong and wondering if you are too ambitious and intimidate men?

Best-selling author of Why Smart Men Marry Smart Women, Christina Whelan calls these women the SWANS generation — Strong Women Achievers, No Spouse.

Girls are now admitting that their dreams of marriage are slowly fading away . However, Dr. Whelan makes it so that smart, successful, and marriage-motivated women meet their equals because they have those attractive traits. I have selected tips for you that will help you not only strengthen or create a happy relationship, but also become stronger yourself.

1. Be as serious in your relationships as you are in your career

If you treat relationships the same way you treat a career, it becomes clear that everything takes time and knowledge. Be ready to spend this time to acquire useful skills. Adopt habits that can enrich relationships, such as compromise, flexibility, responsibility, and ambition.

You should not focus only on work in the hope that in the future you will have time for a man.

Strong women improve all areas of life that are important to them at the same time. Be open to men who ask you out on dates while you’re studying or traveling. Guys who stay in the office until 10pm, don’t answer the phone and keep saying “I’m busy” just make you frustrated? So, do not copy this behavior.

2. You are smart. And your dates should be smart.

I wasted too much time meeting guys with no future. We had different ideas about what a marriage should look like, they did not want children, or they did not present any other options for my position at all — I had to deal exclusively with the house and raising future children. These are important factors for a long-term relationship, so don’t feel obligated to date someone who doesn’t share your values.

We girls feel when a guy is about to break his heart, so you have to be strong enough to leave on time. Even if you have to spend some time alone until you meet the right person.

3. Be confident in who you really are

Your heart is worth fighting for. Whatever your skills, personality, interests and talents are, they are uniquely combined into one. Don’t take this lightly. No need to be arrogant, but you should calmly remember that you are exactly what this world needs.

4. Just because you can do everything doesn’t mean you have to do it.

One of my boyfriends helped me grow professionally faster than if I did it myself. It didn’t diminish my abilities or make me worse.

Even moral support allowed me to find the strength to pounce again and again on the amount of work that was in front of me.
The same rule works for girls who strive to serve, forgetting that relationships are a two-way street. If you know how to do something well, then you should not use it as the only sure way to keep a man .

5. Don’t be afraid to talk about your feelings

Just because you know what you want in a relationship doesn’t mean you can’t be vulnerable. There is no need to apologize for your emotions. If there are things that worry you, such as difficulties at work, feel free to talk about them.
The very concept of “very emotional” should sink into oblivion, or at least cease to be something shameful. A strong person is not one who does not feel anything, but one who copes with any experience.

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